Happy New Year......

Happy New Year guys......its been a while since I wrote, but am so glad to be crossing into 2016 with you. I just want to say thank God we all had a smooth transition into 2016. Its been a great year, maybe not so much for my Country Nigeria but I am still thankful and off cos hopeful. Early this year I believe goals were set and Congratulations if those goals were accomplished....E no easy. And if those goals are not yet accomplished, pray, work hard and remain hopeful. Also its a time to step back and reflect on the past year and be grateful for all the good things that happened in 2015 and also try to figure out what happened with things that went wrong, not to dwell on them but to use them as a guide and to make sure they don't happen again.. Albert Einstein said insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. Its important to be flexible and change things up instead of doing the same old thing. New year resolutions are great if you make them and can keep them, but sincerely I think things you don't make a lifestyle can hardly be maintained. But if you make values that guide and help you develop a clearer sense of what's most important to you in life, that you can make a lifestyle. I came up with a few tenets that may or may not apply to you.. but if you can relate with any of them, be my guest;

• I recommend you read every single thing you can lay your hands on, there are lots of cheap knowledge and information out there.
• Be yourself; everyone else is taken. Be comfortable in your own skin.
• Do not sleep with everybody you meet; Its a small world.
• Do not follow the crowd; ask questions.
• And finally; Its never greener on the other side.

As we step into the New Year, I wish you Life, Love, Happiness, Travel and Adventure.......

HAPPY NEW YEAR

Yaay.....Merry Christmas!

Christmas is a special celebration around the world. Its a special day especially for Christians all over the world. Its a day people look forward to. Its a season of love, joy, sharing and celebration. I have spent most of my Christmas in my Country Nigeria and I must say its a day most Nigerians anticipate for from the beginning of the year. But having spent my last two christmas away from home, I noticed the way its celebrated its quite different around the world. There are a few similarities but the feel is different and I want to talk about what christmas is like back home in Nigeria Vs how it is celebrated in Canada which is the only other place I have ever spent christmas.
Christmas in Nigeria is a big deal, its a time when people want to spend time with their families. People travel across to world just to be home for christmas. People within the country also travel to their villages just to spend time with their parents, siblings and other relatives who they haven't seen in a while. A typical christmas eve in Nigeria, families have parties at home or even go out to party somewhere. Its a time when people want to go out to have fun and spend all the money they have been stashing since January....lol. Its so much of a big deal that some people want to change their cars just for christmas. Children play fire crackers in the neighbourhood and have lots of fun. When I was a kid christmas was a time my parents would let me play as much as I want, go to the neighbours and spend time playing. It was the only time in the year my siblings and I were allowed to do what ever we want....ok maybe not everything we want, but my parents are usually lenient at that time of the year. On Christmas morning some families will spend time in church to give thanks to God, while some stay home cooking, eating and receiving visitors all day. Its a season when extended families gets together to catch up on whats new. Also its a wedding season at this time, a lot of weddings take place at this time, may be not on Christmas day but after christmas till the new year is a wedding season in Nigeria. I can go on and on about christmas in Nigeria because its a wonderful experience that Nigerians don't want to miss out on. Exchanging gifts its not mostly our culture, but Nigerians mostly like to send edible gifts and hampers to their family, friends and even colleagues at work. People prefer to visit and just feast and merry together. Also Nigeria consume a lot of alcohol during this time. Ok coming to Christmas in Canada.

Christmas day in Canada is a day of celebration when Canadians exchange gifts and share festive meals. Many Canadians are usually off work on the 25th and spend time with their families exchanging gifts and meals and also attending church service. The tradition centered on gifts is so strong that children are made to believe that Santa brings gifts and candy. They are made to believe that santa travels on a sleigh pulled by reindeer, enters the house through the chimney and leaves presents and candy....lol. Some families just exchange gifts without the mythical santa claus idea. Christmas lunch is a big deal and most Canadian families have a large meal with stuffed or dressed roasted turkey.
Most places are usually closed as spending time at home with their family is very important to them.
Having spent Christmas in both places with all the differences, regardless its all about spending time with family. Family is key and if you ask me is the best gift from God. So as you spend time with your family remember Jesus is the reason for the season and family makes the season worth the while..
MERRY CHRISTMAS AND A VERY HAPPY NEW YEAR....

May your Friday sparkle...

Dear Friday, where the hell have you been? Its been a long ass week and I have been wondering if your ever going to show up. You feel so distant most times and it really hurts you take so much time to show up; the good thing is you always show up, at least its better late than never. I have decide to put the long wait behind me and give you a very warm welcome. Now am really curious about what you have for me, but but before you show up and start bossing me around, let me first give you a heads up on my expectations, just in case you have time to make changes. First of all I want to wear a big smile when I see you, that means you have to show up looking right, no bad weather and things like that, yea! Cool. Secondly I have a lot planned out for you, like black Friday shopping, but your allowed to tag along and please try not to disrupt my day; No unpleasant surprises, its my first black Friday ever so try not to mess things up. Thirdly I have one thing on my list, I really want to get, so try and make it available at a very good deal. To be specific I want a canon digital camera, to enable me start my picture album. Finally, this one is really important, help me stay within my budget, Please...Biko...in any language you understand. You know that saying "Money looks better in the bank than on your feet'. So afterwards you can let me in on your own plans, OK? This cant be too much to ask for. Am counting on you

Regards,

Me

P.S Just to wish you a wonderful Friday, may it sparkle as much as you want

Life 101.......

Life is a mystery, life is a wonder, life is a journey to an unknown destination. Just like every normal journey, its either a bad experience or a good experience, any which one of them has something to teach you. You will learn the hard way or the easy way. I have learnt quite a lot and am still learning. I want to share 10 life lessons I have learnt so far...

• Life is not fair, but its still good: Life is not fair and we all know this. I don't know why and am not in the position to ask questions. So I will just sit tight and enjoy the ride. Am reading a book by Sophia Amoruso #Girlboss, she said " I had friends who were supported by their parents and I was totally envious. It seemed unfair to me that some kids were able to do what they wanted, while I spend my afternoons at a costume shop, helping "burners" find their google and stupid hats for burning man. However forcing me to provide for myself was the best thing my parents ever did for me". Life doesn't present us all the same opportunity, but you can take advantage of the inequality and make something out of it.
• Expect nothing from people: We often have high expectations from people, especially people you have helped in one way or the other, I mean, why not? After all they say to whom much is give, much more is expected. But trust me if your in this School of thought, you will get disappointed more often than not. People are different and you have to respect that, expect little or nothing to avoid being disappointed. If they fail you, you feel normal, if they Wow you, even better.
• Nobody cares about what you do, more than half the time they are busy with their own life: The thought of being judged or talked about has kept a lot of people from living their life the way they want or being with who they love. The honest truth nobody really cares about what you do, they are busy with their life's. Don't get me wrong, every now and then they take a sneak peak into your life to know if the party flopped or is still going on and off they are back to their own thing. Don't let them keep you down...
• Don't spend a lot of time on horizontal friendship: Horizontal friendship is what I call friendship for just companionship, the type that has absolutely nothing to teach and offer you, but only helps you kill boredom. Have them, but not a lot of them and don't invest time and energy into them. Focus on friendship that has something to offer (Vertical friendship). Just visualize a horizontal or vertical line in your head , that will help you understand better.
• Strangers will build up your walls: Isaiah 60:10. I found this scripture after I learnt this lesson, then it made more sense to me. Most times the most significant help comes from the outside, from people you barely know. Familiar people are more skeptical about helping you, for reasons best known to them, half the time the reasons are selfish.
• Somethings are more important than winning: Yes, I realized that somethings are more important than my Ego. A lot of people are shortsighted and can't see beyond their front door, all they can think about is the now and how they want to stay on top of their game at the expense of really important things or people. A good name is better than winning, making your family happy is better than winning, a good friend is better than winning. We all love to win, but know when to draw the line.
• You are responsible for the way you feel: I used to think a good pedicure was the cure to anything, until I had one after a bad quiz. Once I was very excited about something and I picked up my phone and called my best friend to tell her about it, but once she picked up she didn't sound very friendly and at my end that messed up the whole excitement for me. I felt bad but guess what she was having a bad day, everyone does. It was my expectations that made me feel the way i felt. The way you feel is entirely up to you. When people upset you or make you sad, it make be as a result of failed expectation or what you were thinking. You are responsible for the way you feel, keep your expectation in check and your feelings by default will be in check. 
• Follow your Head not your Heart: The heart is deceitful above all things (Jeremiah 17: 9). When you start seeing signs he may have fallen out of love with you, thats your head being rational. When you start making excuses for him, like maybe his just busy, thats definitely your heart. Everyone would say follow your heart, it knows you better than anyone else, True? But I advocate for the head because its more rational and fair in thinking. Those two voices in your head all the time is your Head and your Heart, in constant power tussle. Use your head more often. Thank me later.
• Your thoughts create your reality: Ever heard of the law of attraction, if not you need to read about that. What you focus on becomes your reality. This lesson is more mysterious than you can imagine. I set aside a little time every day for positive thinking, just visualizing everything that can go right with my life, and thinking less of all that has gone wrong.
• Love is not enough: So am going to end with this Love is not enough, Yes truly it not. Having butterflies is not all there is to last you in a relationship. Have you ever met someone you really cared about but can't stay happy under one roof, cant have a decent conversation without arguing. Thats incompatibility. Love is great but not without compatibility, attraction, finance etc FILL IN THE BLANK SPACES

THANKS FOR READING TILL THE END.....

Does your Passion seem distant or out of reach?

We have attributed Passion to be the thing to reach out for when searching for our career and life's work. Every time I hear someone say "All you have to do is follow your passion and everything will be fine", I pause, take a pen and a paper and write down a few things am passionate about. After that I go through it and realize am passionate about quite a number of things and this leaves me more confused than I was. I have wanted to be so many things at different stages in my life. The first thing I ever wanted to be was a News Caster because, I read morning news through out my primary school days and I was so good at memorizing and presenting stuff, as a teenager I wanted to be an actress and after that a lawyer, but after my dream of being a lawyer was killed, I gave up and settled for what ever was in front of me. Am going to stop her because this topic is not about me, but am just trying to emphasize on the fact that things we want to be changes from time to time, especially when you haven't made up your mind on exactly what you want to do or "What your passionate about". Everybody says follow your passion, which makes sense if you know exactly what it is. But the reality is most people don't know what they are passionate about, some have multiple passion and some are going through a mid life change of passion. Being passionate is great and it helps us enjoy what we do, but it doesn't enhance creativity or help you discover yourself. Passion doesn't create a new movie, a new song, a new book, a new idea, a new recipe, Curiosity does.

"Curiosity is the engine of achievement" - Ken Robinson

Curiosity they say kills the cat but I say curiosity is the mother of all invention.Your curious when you want to know a lot of things about a particular thing. Curiosity is when you become a scavenger about something your interested in. I once read a book by Elizabeth Gilbert and how she followed her Curiosity about Gardening. Curiosity lead her to want to know more about the origin of the flowers she planted and she dogged deeper and deeper and it inspired her to write a novel The Signature of All Things. When your passion has bailed on you, curiosity is your best bet. Think of something you have even the smallest interest about and become a scavenger for any information you can lay your hands on about it. Sometimes it may lead you to something your passionate about, or it may not, but at least you get to learn something new. Curiosity has lead to some of the most amazing inventions, careers and ideas . Curiosity can lead you to amazing unexpected places. Follow your Passion if you have one, if not follow your Curiosity and trust it.

Weekends are the Ham in the Hamburger..........

Am sure you agree with me that weekends are the best part of the week. After a whole week of joggling the job, kids, school and other important stuff, you finally get your two days off to focus on your self and your family. Am sorry if you work on weekends because you maybe missing out on what I call, because of lack of the right words "two days of wonder". I call it the ham in the hamburger because those two days are amazing and without them you can imagine how life would be working round the clock,*Imagine hamburgers without ham*. It makes up for the pasts weeks activities and reliefs you of the stress accumulated and makes you ready for whats to come on Monday. Weekends are like glucose, it gives you energy for the next week's task. Naturally taking a break off anything, gives you extra zeal to go on. Weekends come with an elevated feeling of freedom, it almost feels like a prison break. Weekends are good for you and you need to maximize and explore them every chance you get. Free times are important to help you relax and boost your mind. Below are some helpful tips for a relaxing weekend

1. Make a plan: 

Am sure your wondering why on earth do I need to plan my weekend. You need to plan in other to make it worth the while. Except your week is a bit flexible and you find time to do stuff, if not you need to put down a few things you want to do. I love fun spontaneous weekends, but they play out once in a while, so you can't hope something fun is going to come up, you need to make something fun happen.

2. Meet up with friends:

So everybody is busy during the week and find time only on weekends. So you can plan to meet up with your friends, have a drink, see a movie, go swimming or something. You can even play host and invite friends over for food and drinks, in order to catch up on happenings. This is without a doubt always fun

3.Avoid drinking too much Alcohol: 

So this is what happens, thanks to "Thank God its Friday". You party on a Friday night, trying to maximize your weekend, get drunk and the rest of your weekend it messed up. Too much alcohol makes you spend most of the next day in bed and this ruins your time off. Except off cos you plan to spend you weekend in bed. Thats fun too....

4. Catch up time: 

So you can also catch up on personal stuff. This is where you decide to either get your hair or nails done, personal shopping, catching up on your hobby, watching movies at home, video games or reading a book.

5. Miscellaneous: 

So another fun thing to do is "Miscellaneous", that is anything you want to do considered to be fun for you. Something you know that is relaxing or fulfilling for you. e.g exercise, church, grocery, boo time, bae time, football or trust me anything you can think of falls under this...

Weekends go quickly, only about 60hours...Make it count

Broken Crayons still colour.....

Ever heard that phrase before? "Broken Crayons still colour" Am sure! I came across a picture that had that phrase on it and I stopped and pondered on it for a little while. What a powerful phrase! what a soothing phrase! what a healer! Thinking about it just melts my heart. And it opened me up to more possibilities. That Phrase reeks of hope and it gave life a meaning again. My point is your stronger than you think, you just don't know it, because there is still room for you to be weak. Your still beautiful, you can still live your dreams, you are going to be well again, your going to find love again. Broken but still beautiful, broken but still strong, broken but still can colour. Early this year I met this amazing little girl at a friends daughters birthday party, she came to me and wanted me to help her with her colouring book, apparently most of her crayons were broken, it was uncomfortable I couldn't use it but this little girl could colour with it, because she understood that her crayons were broken but they still worked, they still coloured, something I couldn't understand. Don't worry about how many times you've been rejected, or how many times you've been laughed at. Its only your Ego that is broken, your soul is still in tact and waiting to make your life colourful. Just like a broken Crayon, the painting may not be perfect, you may struggle trying to align the blunt Crayon to the edges of the drawing, but as you keep colouring, the edges get sharper and soon you can align the edges of your painting. Broken by some situation, but there is someone out there waiting to be coloured by you, by your smile, by your presence or even your ideas. There's no perfect situation in life, don't wait for that perfect timing, it may never come. With your head up and your shoulders high, paint yourself with those little pieces you taught of discarding.

Should you play hard to get or just be straight forward?

I remember the old school strategy "Play hard to get", this approach was useful in the past when men were less complicated and more transparent. But things have changed and men have become more difficult to understand. Thats why women need to be flexible and approach this differently. Playing hard to get works sometimes but it might not be the best strategy, because all it does is make him want you. Playing hard to get builds a burning desire of want, depending on the the degree of his want. The cat and mouse strategy only makes him want you, it doesn't make him like you any more than his initial intention. Its like window shopping and finding a shoe you like, the moment you realize you cant have it due to your budget only makes you want it more. Every time you see it your desire for it continues to grow, doesn't mean you like it more than the first time you saw it. You will only be able to differentiate this feeling after you have gotten that shoe, and after you have worn it once or twice, only then will you know how much you liked it anyway. Making a man want you for so long might not be the best way to discover if he really likes you. Playing hard to get has different effect on different emotions, thats why it may or may not be the best strategy. Being straight forward and being yourself may or may not be a better strategy, this is why. Men like women who are nice to them, being straight forward with them will make you likeable and real and will make him trust you. Being straight forward here might be showing him you feel the same way or showing him your not on the same page with him. Regardless of what the outcome of your being straight forward is, he will consider you to be a good person, at least for being honest and not making him waste his time.
Succeeding with any of this strategies depends on the intention, emotion and understanding of the guy in question. I recommend being yourself any day, any time and finding who loves you for who you are...........

Where do broken hearts go?

Where do broken hearts go? Some crawl right back into their shell, where they feel safe and protected. where they can nurture the pain, where they can heal fast without being noticed. where the memories of the past will be erased with time.

Where do broken hearts go? Some wander into the desert, lost and confused. Sinking in the sand every move they make, sad, hurt and drained of all their energy. Without a clue of how they got there, without a clue of what to do next. Walking and sinking, hoping someday someone comes to their rescue.

Where do broken hearts go. Some are too scared they build a wall. A wall so tall and thick every body else but them can see it. They don't know its there, but they spend the rest of their lives walking on egg shells.

Where do broken hearts go? Some get up dust their shirt and go right back into the field. They are willing to try again because they understand that love is a battle field. They are so brave and they know they are not getting what they want without a fight.

You become who, you spend most of your time with.....

Going down memory lane, you will realize most of the friends you made as a kid wasn't really out of choice. Some were because they lived right next to you, or may be they sat right next to you in class and you really didn't have much of a choice, but some were out of having similar interest in may be football or something. But as you grew up, things began to change, your sense of style, career, the kind or movies and songs you love, but most especially your direction in life began to change, most times completely different from that of your friends and loved ones. This will mean changing who you surround yourself with. As your life begins to take a new turn, you need to update your friendship software, making sure you surround yourself with the right people. This is not being selfish, and am not saying do away with people who care about you,but for the purpose of growth spend more time with people who help you grow. Its more like being the best you can be in other to be that person they can learn from. I often hear people say the most important resource in the world is money, but I say the most important resource in the world is People and I mean quality people, people you can learn from, people who are not afraid to tell you your doing something wrong. Some of you have friends who are drop dead loyal to you and to them your perfect. You need a critic, someone who will not hesitate to let you know your wrong and help with ways you can do things better. Spend time with people who are insightful, that way you start to think like them.You become who you spend most of your time with. You need to stay away from negative, unhappy and insecure people, the energy that comes from those kind of people are very contagious and in no time,you begin to feel and think like them. Think about who you want to become put that person in one corner of the table, put the people you spend most of your time with on the opposite corner and try to make a connection. The type you make when your trying to connect a charger to a socket. If you have the wrong charger, for the wrong socket, there cant be a fit. Don't pack the wrong bag for the right journey.
Identify five people who are already living the life you want, people with the traits you are trying to develop, they may be close or they may be far and unaccessible. If they are accessible spend your time with them, and leverage on their ideas. Be a good listener around them. If they are not accessible you can learn something new from them by either watching their movies, reading their books or just doing a research about them.
Romantic partners affect you more than anyone else, find the right one, who will move you forward and not hold you back. You don't have the power to choose the family your born into, but you have the power to choose who you spend most of your time with. Choose wisely!

Love is like a butterfly

Love is like a butterfly, they say its beautiful I say its the most beautiful thing, its beauty is enormous it makes you glow, even without the best clothes and make up on, you still glow.

Love its like a butterfly,its bright and colourful, its so bright and intense everyone else except you can see it.

Love is like a butterfly, it growth is magical, it never really looks like it. It starts with a smile and grows into a romantic relationship.

Love is like a butterfly its rare and gentle, you never see it coming and it makes your heart feel strange

Love is like a butterfly it guards its territory jealously and chases people who may try to stray into them

Love its like a butterfly, it feeds on our emotions and must be nurtured with respect, trust, kindness, patience and selflessness

Love is like a butterfly. Its full of interest, lively and exciting. It makes you want to try new things. With love your emotionally irresponsible because you live without rules

Its never too late to go back to being you

Its never too late to be who you were created to be, if you haven't discovered who you were created to be, its never too late to be who you want to be. Sit for a minute and reminisce on who you wanted to when you were 5 years old, a princess, superman, the president ...... name it . At that age we were all young, innocent and free. we didn't think of all the reasons why we cant be who we want to be, but we still had those dreams anyway. At the age of 10 some of those dreams started to changed, things started to shift and the picture became clearer.  Even as we grew into adolescence those dreams changed again. At every stage of our lives we wanted to be something different. Growing into adult age one of the two happens, its either we actualize our dreams or we settle for what ever life throws at us. Its never too late to be who you wanted to be at 5, 10 or even now. Its never too late to get that education, its never too late to loose that weight, its never too late to start that business, its never too late to write that book .......its never too late to go back to being you. If that dream still wakes you up in the middle of the night then you probably should get up and go for it. There's no need being someone else when you know who you want to be.
I saw this video of an 80 year old woman who quit on her dreams many years ago and got married, so many years after she lost her husband she still had the passion to dance and she went back to take dance classes and this lead to a whole new life for her. That video inspired this topic because considering her age and dancing, I couldn't imagine a woman of her age doing all that. But you know you can never be too young or too old for who you want to be. Something changed her focus along the way, but when it was time she knew it was time and she hurried back to it. What you want to be might not earn you the kind of money you want, but one thing am sure it gurantees is fulfillment. what is life with fulfillment? the answer is NOTHING.
"ITS NEVER TOO LATE- NEVER TOO LATE TO START OVER, NEVER TOO LATE TO BE HAPPY." -Jane Fonda

The reason your still thinking about your Ex

Break ups are hard and some of us have been through the painful process of trying to heal. Waking up in the morning and realizing that, that one person you once shared your dreams with, your time and aspirations is no longer in your life. This realization can be very devastating and I understand. Some people are strong enough to realize its over and move on, but unfortunately some people don't know how to and this healing process can be painful and might take a while. But the truth is unconsciously  a lot of people are not completely over their Ex. Living in the past is hard especially with how fast the world is evolving, you want to be anything but in the past, when everybody else is moving on and getting along with their new job or new relationship. Thinking about your Ex can be as a result of one of the reasons below

• Relationship closure: Some relationships end without a proper good bye and this can be hard. Its hard for a loved one to walk away without saying goodbye or without at least saying what went wrong. This can be very hard, leaving you in a state of " Oh my God, where did I go wrong" trust me I have experienced that and because of that your left thinking about all the reasons why they could have left. You can move on even after a relationship with out closure. This is what I do, might not be the best advice but I will give it anyways. To hell with the person, if they feel comfortable walking out of your life without a goodbye or an explanation they are not worth occupying your thoughts and making you feel less of yourself. You deserve better, trust me.
• You hate being alone: I think time is the most valuable resource every human being has. After spending a reasonable amount of time with someone, and after all that investment, you probably scared of being alone. You can deal with this by finding yourself, finding a part of you that your comfortable with, a part of you that makes you tick. That way your comfortable being alone and you can stop thinking about your Ex. Love yourself that much, to love being alone.
• Best thing ever: Your still thinking about your Ex because you think he/she is the best thing since sliced bread, then maybe you need to try Hawaiian Tropicana pizza. Think about it this way, if he was that great why did the relationship end. There must have been a reason for the break up. You may have forgotten over time but if you constantly remind yourself why it ended then maybe you will think less of how great you think he was.
• Regrets: Regrets are one of the reasons why your still thinking about ur Ex. Whenever you have regrets about how a relationship ended, whenever you wish you could have done something different, you will always be stuck in your past, because everyday your hoping for a chance with him/her to do something differently. No need to brood over bad decisions, like I will always say its ok to make them. Because you will learn something. I call it filling up your trunk of mistakes. Once you learn enough you don't have to make them again. Stop hoping for a chance to do things right because that might never happen, but what is going to happen is you have a chance to do things differently in your next relationship. 

Why do I have to start from somewhere?

Bill Gates one of the richest men in the world, put up this throw back picture of himself at his first job. This picture made me appreciate growth and how far he has come and how much of a blessing he is to humanity. Bill Gates is one of the most important men in the world and looking back that he started with a job. We have to crawl before we can walk. Appreciate how far you have come, don't be afraid to take up the next challenge, have a goal but if you don't have one yet, have a direction. Worry less about how your going to get there. If you put everything in place and work at it, you will eventually. we worry too much about how we are going to get there, but thats not our problem to worry about. Spend most of your time on self discovery, purpose, goal identification and visualizing where you want to be. Identify your strengths and weaknesses, exploit your strengths and protect your weakness. Its like embarking on a journey. Buy a ticket, park your bags, show up at the airport or the bus station. How the plane takes off, auto pilots itself and lands shouldn't bother you.

I am not a morning person........What do i do?

You are not at your best in the mornings. you go to bed very elated and happy and you wake up virtually every morning feeling low, grumpy and inactive. Nobody wants to wake up next to you because of how your mood makes them feel. You feel very lazy to pray and you don't want to talk to anybody when you wake up. You don't know why you feel this way but you do anyways. You start feeling better towards noon because morning is almost over. I understand sometimes we wake up on the wrong side, but thats not what am talking about. Am talking about people who never wake up right. If your the one am talking about here, below are some tips that can help your kick start your day feeling happy and energetic. Regardless of whether you feel this way, this tips will help you too. 

·     1. Get up :Once you wake up in the morning, i mean once your eyes are open or your alarm goes off, get up right away. Staying in bed when your awake will make you feel grumpy.

2  2. Water :Drink a glass of water, this helps your metabolism and makes you feel better.

3  3. Use the toilet every morning: This is important. The feeling is out of this world, if you know what i mean .......lol. Anyways it makes you feel lighter and ready to go on with your daily activities. Trust me its a good way to start your day.

4  4. Exercise :Work out every chance you get, especially if your not a morning person. Morning work out is a healer. Everyday you work out you feel better, healthier and stronger  than the day before.

5  5.Something exciting : Do something or have something exciting to look up to. If you hate your job, your most likely to wake up grumpy. But since you haven't figured out whether to quit or not. Having something exciting to look up to will definitely make you feel better. Something exciting can be anything. It doesn't have to be something big, it could be as simple as your favourite mama put spot or watching a new movie or even the girl you met after work the day before.

I     Trust me you cant go wrong with following this steps every other day, hope you feel better every morning...

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This has to be the most powerful quotes I have read

Words are very powerful and we should never under-estimate them. Below are ten powerful quotes that will give you a better understanding of life

1."Your excuses might be legit, but they won't improve your life". - Grant Cardone

2."To avoid criticism do nothing, say nothing, be nothing" - Elbert Hubbard

3."Most human being aint as real as they pretend to be". - Chamillonaire

4."You wont have a successful life surrounded by negative people" - Grant Cardone

5."Go the extra mile, there's no one on it" - Grant Cardon

6."Happiness lies in the joy of achievment and the thrill of creative efforts" - Franklin D. Roosevelt

7.One of the things about being a grown up is learning how to act right even when you feel wrong" - Sean Stewart

8."If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything". - Mark Twain

9."Never pretend to a love which you do not actually feel, for love is not ours to command" - Alan Watts"

10."Nothing is a waste of time, if you use the experience wisely" - Rodin

Social media madness

So I came across this video and I want to share, because I am so guilty of this and hope all you guilty people out there can learn and be more careful...

Denial the beginning of the end.......3 steps on how you can rise above denial

Denial they say is an unconscious defense mechanism characterized by refusal to acknowledge painful realities, past experiences, thoughts or feelings. But think of it, how unconscious is denial. I say denial is most of the time conscious and many people are aware of the fact that they are living in denial. If you spend your life denying you have a problem, you will end up denying yourself a life. Three steps on how you can stand tall and raise your head above denial.

1. Acceptance: Acceptance is the first step, which is coming in terms with reality and accepting your situations or feelings. When we embrace our mistakes or realities, it puts us in a state of humility and positions us to forge ahead. Only in a state of humility can we accept our mistakes. Life is not a bed of roses, it doesn't need a permission slip to take you up and make you feel good, and neither does it inform you its bringing you back down. It causes you to do things you shouldn't do and sometimes it makes you make steps in the wrong direction.Its okay to make mistakes, what is not okay is letting those mistakes define who you are. Things are going to go wrong, most of the time they don't happen the way we plan. Sometimes the problem is not the things that happen, but the picture of whats in our head. We accept we make mistakes sometimes, but most times we don't. The worst thing that can happen is not accepting your mistakes because this leaves you in a state of denial.

2. Forgiveness: This step is very important, you know why? Because you are your rescue, only you can raise yourself from denial. After you have embraced your mistakes and painful realities, its time to forgive yourself. Stop reminding yourself you could have done things differently. If you cant forgive yourself you cant move on from the pain. Forgive yourself, accept that your human, get up, dust of the pain and move on. One way to know you have forgiven yourself is when you can freely talk about the mistake or pain.

3. Moving on by taking responsibility: Being in denial is a part to self destruction, destroying your ability to move on from what has held you down for so long. Don't make excuses for yourself, don't make excuses why that business failed, don't make excuses why that relationship failed, don't tell yourself its not that bad. Accept that it is that bad, so what! Moving on with no regrets and realizing its not the end of the world is the final step to liberation. Stand up and take responsibilities for your actions.
Acceptance, forgiveness and taking responsibility are 3 ways you can rise above the destruction called denial.

When you finally meet your crush...

This has to be the cutest video ever. So a video about Mila a 3 year old goes viral, she heard her crush Adam Levine got married, she cried so hard, her mum made a video of it and posted on youtube. Well she made it to Ellen show and finally got to meet her crush. We all had that one Celebrity crush, mine was Thierry Henry....if only I ever got to meet him. Press play to watch the video

How to keep him attracted..........

Keeping a man attracted is a skill and you can learn it. You can consciously work at it and make it a life style. There are many ways of keeping him attracted but I will only talk about a few

1. Show Confidence: Confidence is sexy and men find it very attractive. If you want to keep him attracted you have exhibit confidence. Show him that your happy being who you are, not someone who is constantly waiting for him to fill the void in your life. Show confidence in your appearance, even during a conversation.

2. Display Intelligence : Men love smart women. Really nobody wants to be with an air head. You have to always show him there's something up there. Start intelligent conversations with him, tell him whats happening in the news, tell him about the wonderful ideas you've had lately, tell him about that new book you read lately, tell him the problem you creatively solved at work. Intelligent women attract men, so even if your not you can act like one to keep him attracted.

3. Show him your fun: Fun I mean the kind of fun men like. Try doing things he loves doing, watch soccer, try learning how to play FIFA, play poker. Go out with him and engage in the fun thing he loves. Don't make him watch Telemundo and Enews all the time.

4. Be mysterious : When I say mysterious I don't mean in a bad way. Be like a gift wrapped, sitting and waiting to be unwrapped. Let him discover you. Don't go on and on about the things you like and the things you don't. There's no need for all the details about your Ex's. Let things unfold gradually. Too much information about your life at the same time is unattractive.

5. Always look like a million bucks: Okay I don't mean going out of your way to look good, but you have to wear what he likes. Anyone notice the way Kim Kardashian dresses before Kanye and after Kanye is different. I remember one episode of kuwtk she said Kanye threw away all her denim pants. Also you have to were what your comfortable with irrespective, but always look charming and sexy. Also men are very picky with hairstyles, try switching to what he likes, trust me they love it. Don't forget to wear nice under wears, pick nice flashy colours like fuchsia pink, red, men are visual so you want to be bright with them.

Still hiding in your comfort zone?

Great things happen beyond your comfort zone. Leaving your comfort zone can be hard and I know this for sure. This made me defer furthering my education twice because I was too scared to leave my comfort zone. We are always waiting for the right time to do things but there's never really a right time for anything. We all have been at this stage at some point in our lives and some still are. With all the uncertainties out there leaving your comfort zone can be a very huge step to make. Your comfort zone is where you feel safe, where you are and no body can notice all the things going wrong in your life, except you. Leaving your comfort zone might be the key to unlocking the hidden treasures out there, waiting to be discovered. Leaving your comfort zone can help you discover your self, it can put you under pressure, and this can be the birth of a new talent , skill, music, career, business idea and more. I found an article on three steps to successfully get out of your comfort zone. Find it attached below

1. Rediscover your motivation. We all have a grand vision of who we want to be and what we want to achieve. It is this vision that pushes us forward, gives us courage to take risks, and makes us strong during difficult times.

The motivation we get from our vision has taken us this far, but the feeling lost some of its strength in the way. We became comfortable and settled for whats good instead of pushing for greatness.

We need our vision to be strong again. Go ahead, dream once more, revisit your grand vision, remember the person you want to be, the things you want to achieve, and the people you want to be around. By going back to your vision you’ll find the drive and passion to take the first step out of your comfort zone.

2. Manage risk. We resist leaving our comfort zone because there are risks involved. Things might go wrong and we are afraid of the negative “what ifs”. To overcome this fear and minimize potential problems we are going to identify and manage these risks.

First, find out what are the real risks. What are the worst case scenarios of taking a small step out of your comfort zone? Once you know this, spend some time thinking of ways you could minimize them. Many times we can take some preventive measure that would significantly reduce our risk. Finally, prepare a contingency plan in case the worst case scenarios indeed happen. In other words, have an action plan in case things do go wrong.

This three step risk management strategy -Identify, minimize, prepare- will help you reduce the anxiety of taking action.

3. Start small and correct as you go. There is magic in taking the first step, even if it’s a small step. It’s time you stop thinking about leaving your comfort zone and start doing it.
We tend to wait until we are certain before we take action. Some of us fall into the category of Eternal planners, we won’t make a move until we have thought out every possibility. It’s very unlikely that we will ever finish this perfect plan so we end up never making a move.

You don’t need to know every detail, you can always course correct after you’ve taken action. It is more valuable to be in motion, pushing forward, making mistakes and then course correcting than to stand in the sidelines motionless. This is what high achiever do, they get started even if they aren’t entirely prepared and make corrections as they go. What they don’t accept is not trying.

Every time we chose safety we reinforce fear and make it harder to leave our comfort zone. But if we do take those small calculated risks and succeed, it becomes easier to keep doing it. One success leads to another. Take that small first step then, don’t worry, we already identified the risks and prepared for the worst case scenario. 

Source: www.pickthebrain.com

Five lessons I learnt from past relationships

Some things in life can only be learnt from experience. Every relationship has something to give you, something to take from you and also something to teach you. Sometimes its learnt the hard way. Five things I learnt from past relationships

1. Pain changes people try not to hurt them: Pain is a distressing feeling and every time you hurt your partner, they not only get hurt. They tend to change after the pain is gone. They get stronger and stronger and the way they treat you and react to things that concerns you changes. This is what pain does to you. Cheating on your partner or disrespecting them causes deep emotional pain. They forgive you and if this becomes a routine, it gets to the point where they become immune to the things you do. You wake up one morning and you realize they don't care anymore.
2. People change : People change and there's nothing you can do about it. People tend to change especially when they get comfortable. Even you change. One minute you think you just met the most amazing guy on planet earth and the next minute your asking "where did he go" ,what happened? Nothing happened Honey! Sometimes people change in reaction to what we do, but most times they just change anyway and you cant blame yourself for that. Instead of sitting around asking why? You grow up and move on.
3. You don't know the value of what you have till its gone : We cherish what we value but after having that thing for a while it becomes normal. Not like you don't cherish it anymore, but it just becomes a part of you and at that point the value begins to drop. For instance you wont intentionally drop your i -phone 6 in a bucket of water because you cherish it, but you use it long enough it becomes normal you hardly even change the pouch. This is what happens in relationships, he or she becomes normal you don't cherish them as much, until they are gone.
4. People take you for granted when they know how you truly feel : This happens all the time, when people know how you feel they tend to play with that part of you. Am not a pro in hiding my emotions, but I try to keep it in check. When he knows your always going to forgive him, he keeps doing it anyways, not because he doesn't care, but because he knows he can get away with it. You love him too much for that and he knows.
5. Being possessive is not a sign of Love : I really want you to understand the point am trying to make here. He calls you every minute of the day doesnt mean love, he follows you every where is not a sign of love. He doesnt let your phone ring is not love, he never lets you travel is not love. Thats Selfishness, Love is not Selfish. I mistook this for love for so long. Until I felt a different version. I see a lot of people talk about this and appropriate it with love. Love is anything but Selfish.

Happy Canadian Thanksgiving

Canadian Thanksgiving is a holiday in Canada, which celebrates the harvest and blessings of the past year. This is a day Canadians thank God for all the blessings the previous year brought to them as a nation.  This usually occurs annually on the second Monday in October. I followed my curiosity and did a little research on the history of this Thanksgiving. This is what I found.

Martin Frobisher an Explorer from England set out from England in search of the North West Passage . He had a lot of challenges on his way . His journey was plagued by ice and storm which eventually lead to the loss of one of his ships. He finally arrived Newfoundland a large island in the Atlantic Ocean off the east coast of Canada in 1578.  Mayster Wolfall a preacher made a sermon and told them to be thankful to God for delivering them from dangerous places. Martin Frobisher gave thanks for his safe arrival. This was how the Thanksgiving tradition started in Canada. For a few hundreds of years, Thanksgiving was celebrated either on late October or late November in Canada. On 31^st 1957 the Canadian Parliament announced that on the second Monday in October, Thanksgiving will be celebrated and it will be a general holiday Thanksgiving to Almighty God for the bountiful harvest with which Canada has been blessed.

Source: Wikipedia.org