Denial the beginning of the end.......3 steps on how you can rise above denial

Denial they say is an unconscious defense mechanism characterized by refusal to acknowledge painful realities, past experiences, thoughts or feelings. But think of it, how unconscious is denial. I say denial is most of the time conscious and many people are aware of the fact that they are living in denial. If you spend your life denying you have a problem, you will end up denying yourself a life. Three steps on how you can stand tall and raise your head above denial.

1. Acceptance: Acceptance is the first step, which is coming in terms with reality and accepting your situations or feelings. When we embrace our mistakes or realities, it puts us in a state of humility and positions us to forge ahead. Only in a state of humility can we accept our mistakes. Life is not a bed of roses, it doesn't need a permission slip to take you up and make you feel good, and neither does it inform you its bringing you back down. It causes you to do things you shouldn't do and sometimes it makes you make steps in the wrong direction.Its okay to make mistakes, what is not okay is letting those mistakes define who you are. Things are going to go wrong, most of the time they don't happen the way we plan. Sometimes the problem is not the things that happen, but the picture of whats in our head. We accept we make mistakes sometimes, but most times we don't. The worst thing that can happen is not accepting your mistakes because this leaves you in a state of denial.

2. Forgiveness: This step is very important, you know why? Because you are your rescue, only you can raise yourself from denial. After you have embraced your mistakes and painful realities, its time to forgive yourself. Stop reminding yourself you could have done things differently. If you cant forgive yourself you cant move on from the pain. Forgive yourself, accept that your human, get up, dust of the pain and move on. One way to know you have forgiven yourself is when you can freely talk about the mistake or pain.

3. Moving on by taking responsibility: Being in denial is a part to self destruction, destroying your ability to move on from what has held you down for so long. Don't make excuses for yourself, don't make excuses why that business failed, don't make excuses why that relationship failed, don't tell yourself its not that bad. Accept that it is that bad, so what! Moving on with no regrets and realizing its not the end of the world is the final step to liberation. Stand up and take responsibilities for your actions.
Acceptance, forgiveness and taking responsibility are 3 ways you can rise above the destruction called denial.