1. Pain changes people try not to hurt them: Pain is a distressing feeling and every time you hurt your partner, they not only get hurt. They tend to change after the pain is gone. They get stronger and stronger and the way they treat you and react to things that concerns you changes. This is what pain does to you. Cheating on your partner or disrespecting them causes deep emotional pain. They forgive you and if this becomes a routine, it gets to the point where they become immune to the things you do. You wake up one morning and you realize they don't care anymore.
2. People change : People change and there's nothing you can do about it. People tend to change especially when they get comfortable. Even you change. One minute you think you just met the most amazing guy on planet earth and the next minute your asking "where did he go" ,what happened? Nothing happened Honey! Sometimes people change in reaction to what we do, but most times they just change anyway and you cant blame yourself for that. Instead of sitting around asking why? You grow up and move on.
3. You don't know the value of what you have till its gone : We cherish what we value but after having that thing for a while it becomes normal. Not like you don't cherish it anymore, but it just becomes a part of you and at that point the value begins to drop. For instance you wont intentionally drop your i -phone 6 in a bucket of water because you cherish it, but you use it long enough it becomes normal you hardly even change the pouch. This is what happens in relationships, he or she becomes normal you don't cherish them as much, until they are gone.
4. People take you for granted when they know how you truly feel : This happens all the time, when people know how you feel they tend to play with that part of you. Am not a pro in hiding my emotions, but I try to keep it in check. When he knows your always going to forgive him, he keeps doing it anyways, not because he doesn't care, but because he knows he can get away with it. You love him too much for that and he knows.
5. Being possessive is not a sign of Love : I really want you to understand the point am trying to make here. He calls you every minute of the day doesnt mean love, he follows you every where is not a sign of love. He doesnt let your phone ring is not love, he never lets you travel is not love. Thats Selfishness, Love is not Selfish. I mistook this for love for so long. Until I felt a different version. I see a lot of people talk about this and appropriate it with love. Love is anything but Selfish.
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